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My boss makes me uncomfortable...? |
... he is always making personal comments. Nothing too bad really I suppose but I feel very uncomfortable when he makes these comments. He also makes numerous references to prostitutes and pornography. I don't feel this is appropriate. I probably sound like I have no sense of humour but that's not true. I wouldn't mind if it were once or twice, to be honest I wouldn't even notice, but it's happening alot. He also wanted my help in choosing lingerie that he said was for his wife. He also stood really, really close to me during lunch, while I was eating a banana. I really feel he had no need to be so close and I was so uncomfortable that I was sitting there frozen until he left me again. I wanted to yell at him "Respect my personal space!" What would u do in this situation? I'm already looking for a new job but should I stand up to him in the meantime? He makes my skin crawl. Go to the human resources department. This is sexual harassment. You do not have to listen to anyone talk on about porn nor hookers. He had absolutely no business asking you to help him buy lingerie. (When he brings it up tell him that this topic is inappropriate. I am in here to work not for anything else. Look him RIGHT in the eye). He is just using the lingerie as an excuse to come onto you. If the Human Resources department won't help, make a complaint with your local labour board or Human Rights commission. Then give him your two weeks notice. If he doesn't give back the money he owes you, head straight to the labour board or go down to Legal Aid and get a lawyer. The problem is that his behaviour has never been documented. Im really lu lucky to get my boss. Withholding wages while you are still working is illegal so you should point that out to him. But if you don't give the requisite notice and you are paid in arrears then he is entitled to withhold it at that stage to compensate him for the lack of notice. Otherwise just get another job, give him the notice and get out of there. The next time he tries to get close to you just say 'Umm, excuse me sir, I dont mean to be rude, but your breath is exactly 'refreshing'. Could you back off a bit so I can have a bit of space.' then push him out of the way and walk off. if you want you could even offer if a mint or recommend some. He'll probably get really pissed but it's okay since you've got the job that your searching for to go back to. Good Luck!! And if he starts feeling you up or does something extreme just slap him across the face. Your dignity is more important than your job! Okay first thing is first, he is definitely crossing some boundaries that he shouldn't be crossing. After all, he's acting more like a boyfriend than a boss. If I were you, I would talk to him. I would say "I really need to talk to you about something important when you have a few minutes." And when you two talk, tell him that you respect him as a boss and definitely enjoy working for him but you are a little uncomfortable with some of the topics that come up. Give him some examples, like the time he had you pick out lingerie for his wife (if he even has one....what a creep) or at times when he talks about pornography. Just say you would prefer not talking about topics like that while at work. As far as him holding a paycheck---he can't do that just so you don't run off....put in your two weeks notice---he can chose to let you go immediately or after the two weeks is up. If he tries to hold your check you can go to the board of labor or human resources department for your county and tell them the situation. Remember this: you are a victim here. You have a controlling boss who is sexual harrassing you in the work place----he's not going to win anything against that----you have the real power in this situation. Every member of human resources will stand up for you in this situation. If you need further advice or assitance email me at safespotfinder@yahoo.com Good luck and take care. http://www.geocities.com/safespotfinder... This is so far over the line it's not funny. You need to talk to your companies EEO office about this guy's blatant sexual harassment. If your company does not have an EEO office (it should, though), There should be one within your city government you can talk to. I do not make this recommendation lightly. Normally I would suggest trying to work it out one-on-one, but this is so far over the top I wouldn't even suggest trying. Do not delay in this action and do not be afraid to stand up for yourself in this way. He is way wrong and needs to suffer the consequences for his lack of character. |
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