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Creepy Guy in the office? |
I'm an administrative assistant in an open-office enviroment. There is a man that works nearby that is always coming over and bothering me. He comes behind my desk, picks things up ON MY DESK, and comes over and leans on my cubical and stares down my shirt. Everytime I wear a new shirt or change my haircolor he always comes over and starts asking me about it. He walks by me and says things like "Still happily married?" and laughs it off. It's really bothering me. I've tried to ignore him and give him one word answers. My HR person is aware of my discomfort with this guy and he's already been spoken to once about bothering me while I'm trying to work. He's in his late fifties (I'm 24) and he gives me really slimy vibes and makes me very uncomfortable. What should I do??? First off, I would say trust your instincts. There's a reason why this guy feels creepy to you and your gut knows it. Don't ever put yourself in a vulnerable position with this character. Second, you need to have an in depth conversation with your boss and the HR person. Go to your boss first and tell him/her exactly what you stated here: he is bothering you by hitting on you; he makes inappropriate remarks your marriage and so forth and he's stepping way out of bounds by looking down your blouse. Discuss how you've talked to HR but nothing has changed yet. You need to make it very clear that this man is creating an uncomfortable work environment for you and you want them to step in and put an end to his harassment. You should also start a log, writing down names, dates, conversations and what exactly has transpired. This log will go a long way to prove he is harassing you - and you may need it if it comes to push & shove. And his boss may wonder how this guy has all the free time to bug you. Your other recourses are... if nothing changes after talking to your boss & HR, you can talk to a lawyer, or you can find another job. I hope it doesn't come to either of those options. Good luck! Look him in the eye and say, "Unless this stops, I am filing a sexual harrassment suit against you." Then, if he keeps it up, do it. tell the hr person to put a stop to it, even a mention of sexual harrassment should make them worried enough to stop it immediately Just ask to be transfered or ask for him to be transfered. That or report him to your boss because company sexual harssment laws arre very strict and he could be fired or transfered for the smallest thing nowadays. Personally, i would give him the same treatment he gives me. Guys like that are generally all bravado. Is he married? You could always pull the "i spoke to your wife on the phone" card. if the situation worsens you have to take it up seriously with HR as you legally could take him to a tribunal. or you could ask for an office move or transfer (for him, not you)? this guy sounds like a jerk. sorry i'm not there to give him what for, for you. I had a very similar situation at work and it is absolutely horrible. You must go to your HR person again. If he has already been spoken to and is still creeping around he needs a formal and final warning. You do not need that kind of pressure at work no one does. He sounds like a dirty old man who gets his kicks by doing this and he is getting away with it. Your HR person HAVE to sort it. Good luck Rather than turn to higher authority you ought to have told him exactly how you feel about it. In short that you would appreciate it if he stopped his visits to your desk. By avoiding this and turning instead to a boss you are failing to handle your own situation. Actually this guy isn't doing anything. It is just that you don't like him. Trying to turn it into a feminist issue without every having registered your complaint with him personally in the first place (and not by mind-reading either) is another kind of sliminess. He is only hoping for acceptance. You are trying to get him fired and all the support from Yahoo Answers yes-men, neurotics, upstarts & fellow-travelers will not make it cool. You weren't hired to pursue a feminist agenda. That is a last resort, not a button you can push when someone is not to your liking. |
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