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| *Ostroff, Fair and Company>>>Administrative and Office Support |
I was rude with one of my bosses? |
He always treats me like I am stupid and says stuff like I do not know. So i was like yeah I know..... i tried to go back and tell him my reason for saying that...I directly asked him one question and he pointed out things I already knew. Now I feel bad for being rude..... but he won't talk to me. Normally, he says crap all the time and forgets what he says to me and acts like nothing happened. Resentment : Holding anger and refusing to move beyond real or imagined mistreatment in the past . Some people spend their whole lives as "victims", nurturing a terrible event in their past. The solution Let go! Life is not fair and people do not always behave well or kindly . Use your trauma to make you wise, kind, gentle, and strong . Holding anger will not work---Good Luck I would find another job...You shouldn't have to put up with crap every day. Life is stressful enough without dealing with a moron for a boss. Good Luck well some bosses can be dicks and i think that s his problem i don't think you should have to say sorry because he don't value your work thanks for the opportunity to **** up your life. that said... your "reason for saying that" only drives your point deeper. your boss, like anyone of us, has an ego, and you can't remove the barb by burying it deeper. instead of justifying, try just an apology, and even skirt the issue of what you know, by lathering up what he thinks of himself, "i really appreciate your expertise, how you've taken me under your wing, working with someone who's got such a keen eye for how things work together, who brings such team spirit, dedication, hard work, vision, etc., whatever applies. and perhaps in the context of all that, the pill which you administered (no need to justify anymore whatsoever!) might get digested, perhaps that seed's been planted and he might even speak with you differently. perhaps go to speak with him bearing some trinket, like a candy bar. a gesture, especially a minimal one, can speak volumes. i would keep it very minimal - like a canday bar or magazine, something disposable, to give no room for the thought that you are trying to be overly thoughtful or to buy his forgiveness, it just establishes a rapport. sometimes, by the way, just a candy bar without going into things is good enough to put relations back on the track they were on. the first part might help if you want to change things. there's a terribly-written book that's quite influential - How To Win Friends And Influence People, the value of which cannot be understated! It sounds like you had to tell him, but a different route probably would have better (everything is easier in hind sight). But what's done is done. He's probably just mad because you saw a flaw in him. He needs to get over it and he probably will. Give him time. I would apologize for being rude. I would also explain how I felt when he tells me stuff I already know. Just an honest statement (not you always or you never at the beginning of it) about how you feel about it and a request to just answer whatever question you asked and not the extra stuff. You will need to be on good terms with him...and you'll need his reference in the future. It could be that he's just trying to be helpful when he tells you stuff you already know and doesn't realize what he's doing. THAT was considered rude? Saying "I know?" Wow, maybe your boss should come work in my office sometime. Sounds to me that he's a bit oversensitive. I get it that he was offended, that's ok, but not speaking to you is just plain immature. He'll get over it. |
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