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Working with jealous and competitive employee HELP!!!? |
OK here鈥檚 the deal. I鈥檝e been working within the IT dept for about a year as a web spec. I work in a hospital. Another person who is my co-worker is a systems analyst. He鈥檚 much older then me, about a 15 yr diff has more experience and educational background and worked there 3+ years then me. Since I鈥檝e worked with him I鈥檝e noticed he鈥檚 been trying to compete with me. Once he realized my real abilities I guess he started to feel threatened. He tries to keep me out of the loop when we are supposed to be working together for example and doesn鈥檛 want any projects going to me. My boss was trying to get him to train me but he doesn鈥檛 want to train me. He kinds of avoids it. So I told my boss after a while (for the first time) of what鈥檚 going on that he doesn鈥檛 want to train me and keeps me out of the loop. In a couple of days after that all of the 3rd party applications and projects that he supported were immediately transferred over to me. He has little to do now. He seems angry now and is going to other co-workers and talking. Is this typical. What does this usually indicate? Is there a storm coming!!!!!!!!!! There are a few possibilities here - impossible to tell without hearing his side of things. He may feel threatened by you, but I have a feeling it isn't that at all. What I am picking up from reading between the lines is that you see yourself as the younger fresher shining star and him as the older, antiquated, washed up, insecure old guy. Unfortunately, I have seen in the workplace a total lack of respect for the experience of older workers by the new kids. The key to this in your post is "Once he realized my abilities" - sorry, that is really, really arrogant. IF your abilities are all that impressive, why does HE have to train YOU? If I could pick up the disrespect so quickly, I'm certain that he feels it as well and probably doesn't like or respect you. He is probably not intentionally keeping you out of the loop, he is probably avoiding you and your massive ego. Running to the boss to snitch on him was the wrong thing to do. Yes, he is pissed - you went to the boss, made yourself look victimized at his expense and now his projects have been transferred over to you. Why should he trust you?! You should have asked him about it instead of running to the boss. That works in grade school, but doesn't fly in the real world without repercussion. The boss is the last resort after all other attempts to correct the situation have failed. And, when you go to the boss, ask the boss to be a part of a meeting between the 3 of you. That way everyone has their say, nothing gets misinterpreted and things get resolved. Yes, there is a storm coming - he sees you as a sneaky little **** who threw him under the bus. You are just starting out, he isn't so he is going to fight harder since his job means more to his security than yours does to you. You would have a much easier time finding a new job than he would. Good for you. I HATE that! You should continue to do a good job and stay away from that guy. Don't talk to him - no venting - nothing that he could steal. Just stay away, and do a good job. Your assessment is probably correct in that he feels threatened and insecure. That for the most part is his problem. There is probably nowhere on Earth that you can work without eventually working along side a "b u t t h o l e"! They can give you some grief, especially if the others who work there are easily swayed and weak-minded! Don't let it change your work ethic. Try to communicate with the guy. Show him some respect as a senior, and let him know you are not trying to replace him. He has probably been goofing around there until you showed up, and now he has to earn his money. Don't let him dampen your drive to want to learn and work. Set a certain time frame that you decide, and see if the situation changes. If it doesn't, get with your main supervisor and request either a conference with all of you to clear the air or to work in another area with someone who knows how to train you. The company is losing money by keeping this guy who won't train you, and is creating a "hostile" working environment. GL! welcome to my world, they hired me to replace someone and the someone doesnt want to leave. she REFUSES to show me anything and then when confronted today about it, cops a real attitude. I firmly beleive that working in an office in the near future will be obsolete because no one will be able to tolerate each other. Passive. Avoidance is the most obvious solution if you don't want a confrontation with any type of office jerk. "You can go to your boss and ask him to intervene," says Jansen. Or, if things are really unbearable, you could ask to be relocated to another part of the office. The Bully. Remember, you're not in high school anymore. "Hold your ground and refuse to be bullied," says Steve Piazzale, a career and life coach who runs BayAreaCareerCoach.com. "They'll usually back off over time." The Idea Stealer. There is a strong possibility that this jerk can't distinguish between a good idea and a bad one. "Somewhere along the way, slip in a really bad idea and let the jerk steal that," Lloyd says. However, beware that this might only encourage the jerk to become worse. The Meeting Monopolizer. Get creative. "Try eliminating the chairs and making it a standup meeting," Lloyd suggests. The monopolizer will likely get thrown off and won't have time to settle into the usual routine of unproductive dominance. How to Deal With an Office Jerk Office life can have its ups and downs, but having to endure a jerk can make it miserable. Office jerks take on many forms, and thus require creative strategies for dealing with them. http://hotjobs.yahoo.com/jobseeker/tools... I think it would have been nice if, when you first noticed the co-worker seemingly feeling threatened by your capabilities, you let him know in a genuine way that you were just there to do your job and not to take his. |
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