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How do I approach the situation? |
So today it was brought to my attention there are some problems between my fellow employees and I. I found out that they have been conversing with the boss behind my back through email about what should be done. Noone has EVER said anything to me about it including my boss. I am a pretty irrational person. I want to confront my boss but I know that when I get in the situation I will either chicken out or I will get really emotional and freak out. If I call a meeting between the four of us then it will turn up being 3 against me and I will get frustrated and emotional and do something irrational like quit. Please help me and tell me what the best course of action would be! i was in this situation just a few days ago, what i did was i emailed my boss and informed her that i had been made aware there seemed to be an issue between others in the office regarding me, and that i would like to be informed of what the misunderstanding was, and since she is the supervisor, i felt that it best if i come to her, but to keep down the emotions and tempers, that i felt it best to communicate with her via email, and also it would not add fuel to the fire if they knew i was going to her, and i would like the opportunity to express my side of things, but in all fairness, how was i suspossed to correct something i didnt know was wrong? good luck honey, as i know women can be extremely difficult to work with and for, in my situation, my supervisor told me most of it was petty, and personal, and i explained to her that i told them all in the begining that i was not the social butterfly, that i came to work and i worked, i didnt get involved with what was going on at others homes or in their lives, and that i would not subjuct them to something that was of no concern to them, as we all have jobs to do, and i was not there to make new friends, i was there to do a job, as are others, but i would not be ugly to anyone, and i will listen to others, but when they ask for advise, i just tell them i dont know i have never been in that situation before, and i could not read their hearts or minds, and i didnt know the other persons side of the issue. i have not heard anymore mess out of any of them, and i even go to lunch with one of the girls a couple of times a week, and we have become office buddies, Unless your boss has said something to you about this, then I wouldn't worry about it. He/She may be receiving emails, but if he hasn't said anything to you about it, maybe he doesn't feel it's important enough to. Just keep doing your job, doing it well, and don't get involved in the office talk. Be the better person. *****I would still say wait until your boss says something to you. that's his job. He may be just trying to tell them what they want to hear. Just do your job, and stay away from those that are sending emails to the boss. Well it would be good to know what they have been saying about you, but with lack of info I would have to say sit down with your boss and talk to him/her about it. You need to stick up for yourself or situations like this will follow you for the rest of your life. just keep your self composed at all times and be confident. Depending on the sitauation you may have a right to get emotional, but try to stay composed. If it's something like discrimination then get a lawyer and sue. Good luck. I was in a situation like that before, except I didn't know these discussions were taking place until I was fired. Normally when co-workers complain to the boss about another co-worker they keep it a tight-lipped secret so you don't find out until its too late. Apparently you have a co-worker who thinks these "behind the back" discussions are wrong (I certainly do) and is therefore on your side....assuming that is how you got the info. Anyway..the way to approach it is to talk to your boss about one of the issues that came up in those emails, but don't let on that you already knew because the boss will assume you were "snooping" (reading someone else's email). Talking to the boss about work problems is never easy. My suggestion: Review the work and events related to the issue you are going to discuss with the boss prior to the meeting. Also take a notepad or tablet so you can jot down any other info the boss provides. In the meeting, just remain calm and ask questions if something he says is unclear. So, how did you find this out? Is your information source reliable? Because if people are talking behind your back, the info you got may not be correct... Do you have proof of what you're saying here? If you do, and you find it hard to talk to the 3 others, then try writing a letter. They've been using email to diss you, so you can use email to straighten this all out. Just remember one thing: No one can make you feel inferior unless you give them permission to do so. Good luck... |
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