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Why can't I ever remember people's names?!? |
Why can't I ever remember people's names?!? I have this problem too. I thought it was early Alzheimer's, but I have no problem remembering other things like numbers, facts, etc. I just read recently that failing to remember someones name has a lot to do with how your brain categorizes how important it is. I somewhat agree, I co-own a convenience store and constantly our regular customers come through door and I can't remember their name, but know they have told me. However, I have no relationship with any of them, so my brain still classifies them as strangers, unimportant. The article suggested making a point to look the person in the face while talking to them. Say their name in conversation at least three time. Also, make a name association with a physical feature on their face (in your head please, this could get offensive). For instance, my customer Theo just showed me last week that his front two teeth were dentures. After being slightly disturbed about seeing his exposed gaping hole, suddenly I could remember his name, Toothless Theo. Now I just have to make sure I only call him Theo. ________ A person's name is one of the most important things about them. It represents who they are. Most people don't remember someone else's name simply because they don't make an conscious effort to remember such things. Basically, memory is an associative task. The more associations you develop concerning a particular subject of interest, the better you will be at recalling it. A good way to remember something, anything, is to form an association between the subject of interest and something you already remember. Another way to remember is to create an association between the person's name and a prominent aspect of that person's physical features, appearance, behavior, personality, activities, or some other identifying attribute. Next time you meet someone, and you first hear his/her name, immediately make a deliberate effort to form such an association. It is important that you mentally repeat such association. Next, test the association by using a two-way approach. Think of the connecting attribute; and, then see if you can recall the associated name. Then, try it in reverse. Think of the person's name; and, then see if you can recall the associated attribute. When you actively engage in such deliberate linking, you internalize the associative pair. This will help your ultimately being able to recall that person's name. Remember, practice makes perfect. People are creatures of habit. But, the more you consciously practice this new approach, the better you will become at it. ________ Because we are all better magicians than we realize. When we first meet people, our culture has conditioned us to perform a bit of social misdirection. Instead of concentrating on the person's face, we immediately look for a hand to shake. Often, this is enough of a distraction to completely minimize the oral introduction. Even as you answer the phone, try to look directly ahead and make that person's face the only object of your attention. When you hear their name, identify them with someone you already know, or respect, with that name. Although you have no idea of what they look like, you have a favorable image to help recall the name. In person, I do the same thing, but also make a mental note of their eye color. People like to be liked and this courtesy one of the easiest compliments we can give. I respect your concern and hope this will help. Good Luck. although it is clearly stated the answer to your question by the other posters. can i give you an unsolicited word of advice? when meeting with someone, try to say or mention their name three to five times in a conversation. it will give you that edge or a gentle kick to remember their names when seen again. it is quite true that the first thing to show respect to other people is by remembering one's name. better work on that one. experience. May be low blood sugar levels. try to read more to enhance your memory. those who always read are the ones who have a good memory. |
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