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| *Ostroff, Fair and Company>>>Other - Careers & Employment |
Need advice on how to cope and deal with office bullying and learn to become a stronger person? |
I was bullied by my manager at my last job. He got others to play along & he had a lot of power. I complained to his boss & he had to stop overtly bullying me, but the gossip he spread about me (trying to embarrass me & make me look inferior/weak/pathetic) hurt me so much. My coworkers who I thought were my friends even joined the act (I found this out just recently by putting 2+2 together, going by very good evidence). I left the job but the pain of this still lingers & makes me feel very insecure & defeated I'm starting a new job & will be working w/some former coworkers. I still feel ashamed & scared. I never fit in socially & he pointed this fact out to all. I can't think about anything; my focus is off 1. How can I help myself in this mess? 2. How do I handle the coworkers who know my past? 3. How do I effectively overcome this hurt and pain? I thought when I grew up, I'd be free from bullying. I need to know how to cope & deal w/this. I never knew how, so the problem continues SNAP! you do it now! Try this! Snap your fingers. It will create a change in your mind! Now when you think about that bully think about what a poor little person he must have been as a child to only feel good when he was picking on others. Isn't that a very, very sad thought. Poor him! Poor him. He still is a poor man no matter how much money he will ever make he will always know that he is a bully and he is AFRAID! He is afraid because he thinks the only way he can be bigger is to make someone else smaller. Now as for you, you are our HERO. You can re-invent yourself in a heartbeat. Stand up, remember, poor poor him, too bad and so sad! Now he has to find someone else to pick on! Bet his boss is watching for that, right this minute! (did I see a fleeting smile there?) The very best way to ever get even is to make more money and be happier than those who have done you wrong! My mother's advice and it works you will have a smile on your face the day that poor man gets fired for not getting his job done because he is still spending too much time bullying someone else. Power changes in companies and some day there will be a change that will put him in the same position that you were smart enough to just leave! Smile at those old co-workers and welcome them back into your heart. They were wrong and you and they all know that. Be the bigger person now! Have pride and don't gossip about it! If you say anything-Remember it's very sad about his problem and say so! Be happy you have made a good change now make it the best one of your life-Start with a smile now! You are FREE! Call the corporate office and make a statement to them! You dont deserve this treatment not even at work! |
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