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| *Ostroff, Fair and Company>>>Other - Careers & Employment |
Guy checks me out all the time at work which makes me uncomfortable but is unfriendly? |
after a rough start, the IT man at my job and I were starting to get friendly and jokey. he is always checking me out, tripping, blushing and randomly wore cologne one day. i could tell he liked me. then, we started saying hi to each other. but i never really just went to say hi, so i did today and he acted totally weird and obnoxious. i am not really trying to make a move on him, more like just trying to make a friend at work (he is 43, i am 25) and was completely uninvasive and lowkey about it. he was like, "what do you need?" and i said that i just came to say hi. so, he was like hi. then i said you're giving me a mean look and he was like im not and got flustered, then started asking me if i was the one printing out alot of color printer things and babbling. it was awkward so, i was kind of curt and ended the convo? should i just stop being friendly with him? i felt like an *** and i dont want him to think im trying to hit on him. So - not to be too broad, in my own experience, IT guys are a bit awkward around women. (Sorry IT guys - I even admit to taking C++ to understand some of your jokes!) Don't worry too much about it ... but have something more to say than just "hi" next time. Ask if he say the Simpson's Movie - and if so what he thought. Whatever. In my experience, you need to think a little more when you reach out to someone at work - if you want to be friends, that's cool - but you need to have something to say if it's not just work. Best of luck! Source(s): Years in Silicon Valley ... (Yes, I took C++ as a language course, not so I could program! Tell your IT guy that, he will probably think it's funny.) He sounds like the ***, just leave him alone unless he speaks to you first. Sounds like the guy likes you, but realizes that it presents an awkward work situation, given that it is probably frowned upon to seek relationships with co-workers, and given your age differences. He likely didn't know how best to handle the situation and feels better when he is the one doing the initiating because he is only going to do what is in his comfort zone. When you approached him, instead of the other way around, it probably caught him off guard, took him out of his comfort zone, and he reacted awkwardly. My suggestion would be to just be professional in your job and friendly to everyone. Treat him as you would treat anyone. It might be flattering to have his attention, but if you treat him like you do everyone else, then nothing derogatory about you can be spread around in office gossip (which sometimes can happen) and any awkward moments will be because of how HE chooses to act - and not by anything you have done. Good luck. Well just worry about working, and not so much your social life. If you see him say hi , but go do your work. Sounds like he has a moody personallity. He could be going through a tough time at home. Don't take how he acts as your problem. This guy sounds like a mood-queen. Stay away from people with unstable personalities. He could turn out to be postal (if you know what I mean) and then turn on you in the process. There are lots of looney people in the workplace these days, you can never be to careful. |
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